By
Scott Masciarelli
Four years ago - to the month - I embarked on a transition which
would become "my life experience." I retired from a long corporate
career and left behind not only work I knew for over 24 years but a
family, friends and lifestyle. The decision to take the early retirement
was easy as I had been considering it for quite a while. I knew that
this was a major turning point in my life so, as such, I recall wanting
to do things differently. At the prompting of a good friend who said
"come join a silent retreat I'm going to."
I thought, how bizarre,
a silent retreat? What were we going to do? Why would I want to do such
a thing, pay money and invest one week of my life in something called a
silent retreat? I didn't know any of those answers but the one thing I
did know was that I wanted to create a definite line between what was
and what will be. This seemed so off the wall that it was the perfect
way to create that distinction.
Five days after retiring I landed
in stunning, sunny Jackson Hole and met the 13 others with whom I would
be sharing a multi-million dollar mansion with in silence for the coming
week. The rules of the retreat were simple, we could only speak in our
sacred group meeting room (all seated in a circle) from 10a to 12n and
then from 4p to 6p. The topics during those hours were whatever surfaced
at that time. Trust was a keyword during this experience.
All
other time together in the home was in strict silence. OK, there was the
occasional whisper "please cut the onion or pass the butter" but for
the majority of our time mum was the word. We lived together, cooked
together and dined together all in silence. It was beautiful. There was
no pressure, no stress, no wonder and no questions to ask. What was
present was peace and connection at a very deep soul level.
Interestingly
it was not until the final night, during our farewell dinner, that we
could break the silence in the home. It was that evening we learned what
each person did for a profession and where they were from. The result
was anti-climactic at best. It didn't really matter to me that there
were some influential people in our group. We had become so close at the
soul level that all of the other "stuff" was not even remotely
important.
What was important that was that for each of us healing
began in a way that we did not know. Some of us didn't know why we were
there but we soon found out. I became violently ill during my stay and
for over 24 hours was with fever. Our facilitator advised me that I was
releasing all of the toxins of my corporate life. I firmly believe this
and once I passed through that phase the bizarre retreat took on an
entirely different meaning for me; one of purification, wholeness
welcoming a new beginning.
It was a powerful week in the dramatic
Teton Mountains of Jackson Hole, Wyoming with people who I would never
see again. The clarity, peace and completeness received were far more
than I ever envisioned when I signed up.
Fast forward four years
and I am having a similar silent retreat. This time not because I signed
up for one, but because I became ill, then during the recovery lost my
voice. Not being able to speak has made it incredibly easy to be silent.
Further, if there was a time for a perfect storm it is now and its name
is Jonas. The blizzard of 2016 which has pounded the east coast of the
United States and dumped over 33 inches (87cm) of fluffy white snow on
my hometown in Virginia. For the entire weekend that also made it very
easy to stay inside, slow down, reflect and be silent.
I am
marveling at what a phenomenal three days this has been in my home,
relaxing, focused, reflecting and taking care of little projects that I
have put off for many months and years. The snow demanded that we all
stay inside since the conditions were too severe to venture outside and
roads needed to be kept clear for snow removal and emergency vehicles. I
welcomed this and embraced my homestay as a chance to simply be.
The
power of silence can be found right at home or at a structured retreat.
I have found both extremely beneficial and encourage you to practice
silence as often as you can. Embrace the peace, release the need to
speak and simply be. Name it as a daylong silent retreat or join a
retreat. However you choose to embrace silence I am confident you will
enjoy the peaceful results.
Scott Masciarelli, PCC,BCC is a Global Leadership coach and
trainer and multilingual avid world traveler. He partners with
executives and expatriates to support both their personal and
professional leadership growth. Scott's clients achieve success on their
terms.
http://www.clearinsightscoaching.com
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